The Facebook conundrum

 

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This morning, Ruth, at Life in the 50’s and beyond, published a post entitled Facebook Be Gone! in which she announced that she had recently deactivated her Facebook account. She cited privacy concerns and the amount of time that she found herself spending on Facebook instead of doing other things as her two primary reasons for making this decision.

Later in the day, I noticed that Leanne, at Leanne Cole Photography, had also written about social media, including Facebook. Her post has generated quite a bit of discussion.

All of this led me to write a post of my own weighing in on the the pros and cons of Facebook!

I joined Facebook late in 2007 not long before we left to spend a year teaching English in Japan. My daughter had been telling me for some time that it was something I needed to do but I’d been dragging my feet. Finally, she set up an account for me, not telling me about it until it was a fait accompli! She was right. Facebook proved to be a marvelous way to keep in touch with people back home while we were away and since returning to Canada, it’s allowed us to maintain many of the relationships that we built while we were there.

It was while we were in Japan that I used Facebook to reconnect with several people from my past including my best friend from high school, a Norwegian exchange student who shared our home for almost a year in the late 1980s and a nephew who had disappeared from our lives for several years after leaving home as a young teenager.

There are a number of things that frustrate me about Facebook but most of my exasperation is not with the website itself. It’s with the people who use it! I might be stepping on toes here but it amazes me how many seemingly intelligent people repost all sorts of myths and tall tales without checking on their validity first. It’s so easy to do using sites like snopes.com or truthorfiction.com.

I can’t help wondering about the lives of people who post what they make for supper every night. If my life was that boring, I’m sure I’d go out and do something completely audacious just to have something more interesting to write about! On the other hand, I’ve collected quite a few good recipes thanks to the people who post those.

I love the status updates that one friend writes about the crazy neighbours who live above her. I know they’re driving her around the bend but her descriptions of their antics are very entertaining! I don’t, however, need to know what happens in anyone’s bedroom other than my own!

Some of the things that people say online absolutely amaze me. Hiding behind the anonymity of their keyboards instead of talking face to face, some are downright rude. Whether intentionally or not, our “almost daughter” Chrissy, is great at initiating fascinating discussions on Facebook but, more than once, I’ve seen her and others like her remove whole conversations because they’ve degenerated into name calling and personal attacks.

Facebook has changed it’s appearance several times over the years that I’ve been using it and for the life of me, I can’t usually see why. Like everyone else, I’m frustrated when that happens and I complain but I soon get used to the new look and carry on. I suspect that the changes often have something to do with making the advertising more noticeable but if that’s the case, I don’t think it’s working very well. I, for one, rarely notice the ads at all! I do recognize, however, that they’re what pays for this free site and keep the myth that Facebook is planning to start charging subscription fees from becoming fact.

Can I live without Facebook? Yes. I had to for the five months that we were in China because it’s blocked there. Would I, like Ruth, choose to live without it? Definitely not! Used wisely, it’s a great communication tool.

Ruth is right when she speaks of the lure of Facebook and complains about the amount of time it eats up. It can definitely be a distraction and a time waster. I know I spend more time checking it than I ought to but I enjoy scrolling through my news feed several times a day looking for bits of real news. I also think it’s a fabulous way to share photos and, because I’ve linked my blog to Facebook, it also brings me readers.

Perhaps itโ€™s greatest value to me at this point, however, is the way that itโ€™s enabled our extended family to carry on a running conversation about the needs and care of my very elderly parents. Using the chat feature, we’ve been able to include nineteen family members scattered across North America in an ongoing discussion about life and death issues. It has been an invaluable tool in helping us come to some very important decisions as well as keeping everyone in the family informed about day to day issues.

So, in spite of the frustrations and the time that’s sometimes wasted, I give Facebook a giant thumbs up!

What about you? What’s your opinion of Facebook

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14 thoughts on “The Facebook conundrum

    • I got used to people taking pictures of their food in Japan. It’s very popular there. I suppose it’s because presentation is considered so important. Serving food is almost an art form.

  1. I pretty well agree with your entire blog. So useful to keep in touch with family and friends. Can tend to be a time waster if we let it but the good does override the bad.

  2. Pluses and minuses! Wonderful way to keep in touch, I’m sure I’m guilty of mundane updates. I do appreciate the opportunities though, to talk and share, arrange outings with others that wouldn’t have happened if we weren’t sharing on Facebook. (y) for me!

  3. Facebook allows people like my mother to see that I am still alive and what I’ve been up to since I stink at calling, writing, carrier pigeon and the like of similar communications. Other than that I use it as mostly a media tool to share pictures from adventures, have up-to-date stories from organizations I follow, and to see what crazy cat videos others are posting.

  4. Facebook connected me with childhood friends without it we would have parted ways after school days and not remember much of each other. I have a separate facebook page for my blog so I am still there though I do totally agreed it could be a bit of intrusion of privacy but how far could it go will depend entirely on what one post on it.

  5. Hi, Elaine! I’ve missed some of your posts, in fact I’ve missed a lot on blogs in general. Been busy with some volunteer work at the school for sports day. Anyway, catching up here. Facebook. Hmm, I have to say I too sometimes got sucked in and stayed online for far too long. I read articles that was shared by friends mostly. I hardly update status and like you I too am amazed by those who up date their status like a dozen times a day! I wrote a ranting status a few weeks back about some that made silly brainless comments about the lost of Malaysia Airlines flight MH370. My husband thinks that FB is toxic. Me, I think in smaller doses it should be fine ๐Ÿ™‚

  6. Without Facebook (and Twitter, LinkedIn, etc, etc) I wouldn’t have the new job I’m loving — so I’m all for it!

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