Having the last word

I love to engage in online discussions, but when they deteriorate into pointless arguments or worse yet, absolute rudeness, I bow out. One of my pet peeves is people who always have to have the last word. Don’t they realize that having the last word isn’t the same as winning?

I have seen great discussions on Facebook and other social media end in hurt feelings and broken friendships and I’ve seen people try so hard to prove how right they are that they end up making themselves look stupid. It’s just not worth it!

As Kenny Rogers sings in his hit song, The Gambler,

You’ve got to know when to hold ’em
Know when to fold ’em
Know when to walk away
And know when to run!

I admit that I like to be right too, but I’m deliberately practicing the discipline of not having to have the last word.

As a Christian, part of my mission is to be Christ-like in what I say and do, so I’ve been looking at His example. Jesus didn’t have to deal with social media, where people often say things that they might not say face-to-face, but the principle is the same. He often said things that were controversial or misunderstood, but when He was confronted, He didn’t engage in long-winded debates. He often spoke the truth and then simply walked away. Even when He stood before Pontius Pilate and his life was on the line, He made no reply to the accusations of the chief priests and the elders. (Matthew 27:12-14)

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5 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Geetanjali
    Feb 24, 2016 @ 09:28:34

    One of my resolutions for this year is to develop patience. It is proving to be quite an effort. I guess it’s because it feels so unfair in allowing someone else to believe they’re right when clearly that isn’t true! 🙂

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  2. ronnyallan
    Feb 25, 2016 @ 11:08:20

    The perils of the internet 2016!

    Reply

    • edebock
      Feb 25, 2016 @ 12:44:16

      How true! Facebook, especially, drives me crazy at times, but there are lots of positives too like regular updates and pictures of our grandchildren.

      Reply

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